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Saturday, April 09, 2005

IN ANSWER TO: A Commentary

As with most authors, it is a truism that you can please some of the people some of the time, but not all the people all the time. There is a criticism of the book I authored, Secrets of the Magdalene Scrolls that I feel warrants addressing. The criticism is about the sexual scenes I wrote as being much too explicit. I did not slough this one off and contemplated on it.

To address this issue, I will first give you a bit of my background. I grew up in an era where some women never undressed in front of their husbands and when they performed the sexual act, they took off their underwear and pulled up their nightgown. And you can guess that it was a duty performed for the most part with aversion or resignation.
There is a history of women being used for men’s sexual pleasure with no regard in most cases of it being a pleasurable act for both partners. In Africa today, young girls are mutilated by having their clitoris cut off in order that they won’t feel the pleasure of the sexual act. Supposedly this is to keep them from becoming promiscuous.

In my era of growing up, I fell into the majority group where my mother never spoke of the sexual act, having babies and she did not prepare me for the onset of menses. I learned about the sexual act from schoolmates and didn’t know what a clitoris was until I was 40. Girls were never given the proper name for their body parts and even today most little girls are given the name ‘pee-pee’ in referring to their vagina.

Therefore, I grew up ignorant about my body or the realization that it was possible for a woman to enjoy the sexual act. After a rape, two marriages, and the birthing of three sons, I still was not all that enlightened because I had never had an orgasm. I was never promiscuous.

When I married my third husband, now deceased, I experienced what I wrote about in the book. He was truly my Mr. Magic. I was fifty-one years of age when we met and married. I have had a grand experience, which evolved beyond a need to have sex all the time.

My point is, women and girls need to know that it is possible to have a loving relationship and be fulfilled with the sexual act. One has only to observe the sexual scenes in movies, television and in books to realize that neither the female nor the male truly have a clue what it is all about. From my perspective, if both sexes truly were educated in the meaning and value of the sexual act, there would be no need for Viagra and less emphasis placed on the need to repeat the experience over and over with a different partner.

I have received comments from older women who thanked me because they realize that it is possible to have fulfillment in the mature years. If I can light a candle of hope, it is worth it all.

From my perspective, Mary Magdalene and Yeshua (Jesus) would have been enlightened enough to have a fantastic sexual relationship and that relationship, after the birth of a child, would have evolved into a deeper level of love without always having to express it through the sexual act.

In the sequel, which I am now researching and writing, perhaps Peter and Ellen as well as Jill and Sebastian will evolve this way also. ~